Thursday, May 22, 2008

Is life like a train?

When ever I am traveling by train, I feel as if life is also like a train.

When you enter the train you do not know who your co-passengers are going to be. When you come in this world then also you do not know who will the people around you. But you can choose to be friends with them or spend the entire journey without uttering a word. But imaging if suddenly there was a crisis, what will happen, will you be able to still remain quiet? You will be forced to interact in moments of crisis. Then why not talk to them now, when there is no crisis. We should not always wait for some crisis for talking to fellow men and women. Even peace is a good time to talk to people.

Sitting in a train, it is fun to look outside. Each moment new scenes, new places, new people keep on passing by. You have an opportunity to enjoy watching them but if you choose to shut down your window, it’s all dark for you. The scenes are still there, people are still there, places are still there but you have chosen not to see them, not to enjoy them. May be you are enjoying your darkness or the limited view that you have now with a shut window. But you must take a glimpse of the outside world before reaching to any conclusion. You must know what you are choosing over what.

In an unreserved compartment, people are always divided into two sections – one who are outside the compartment on the platform, trying to get in and others who are in the compartment resenting the new crowd. Once the outsiders come inside, they become the insiders and start resenting those who are still the outsiders. In life also there is always a resistance for new things, new ideas, new concepts etc. Those who are new today and struggling to get recognition and get their place under the sun, become the resisting force tomorrow. Each generation faces a generation gap with the next generation. They behave as if they are sitting inside a train while others are on the platform, struggling to get in and displace them or replace them or may be misplace them.

But then that is life. Lets enjoy it.

Nupur Jaiswal
Personality Development & SOft Skills Trainer

Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Is life about trading?

Some people get upset when they do not get expected returns of their good deeds or favors done to others. They start feeling that life is not fair; they are not getting their dues. They are the ones who are taking all the pains to make other people happy. In return to this, they must get something back from those people – appreciation, thanks, favour, something……Their good act should not be ignored. If it is so, then what is the fun in doing good for others. They believe in give and take. This is treating life as a trade junction.

My viewpoint is that life indeed is a trade junction but it is a huge trade junction. There are too many windows all around. You have to make deposit at one window and get the payments from some other window. You need not enquire, from which window. When your turn will come, you will be called up and given your dues. The junction takes care of that. You need not worry about it. Just count how much you have deposited. Do not wait in front of the same window for getting a payment.

Do good for others and move on. What you do for someone will come back to you from some one else. You do not know from whom, from where. Why worry? The universe will take care of that.

Nupur Jaiswal
Soft Skills & Personal Development Trainer

Sunday, May 18, 2008

Is Life a journey?

Life is a journey and to have a good and enjoyable journey one must know three things:-
1. What is my destination?
2. Are my headlights strong enough for me to see the next 100 meters?
3. What to do when I am at crossroads?

Unless we know our destination, we will have a nice time on the road and reach nowhere. And the beauty of the trip will be that we will not know whether we have reached where we wanted to or not. We will not know whether to be happy or not? It is as good as getting lost.

But we need not spend an entire lifetime just planning our route. Then we can never get started. As long as we are sure about next 100 meters, we are ok. As long as we know the final destination, the route will unfold itself.

When we are at the crossroads and not sure about the correct turn – we have two choices, either ask someone who has been on this route before or take a chance and lose the track. We can do any of the two. It depends on the gravity of the destination whether we can take a chance or not. If we rushing to the hospital with our child who is fighting for life, we cannot afford not to take the right direction even if it means asking several times on the way.

How serious you are about your life and what do you plan to do is a choice.
After all it’s your life.

Is Life a Video ?

Some people think life is a video player and they keep on searching for the rewind and fast forward buttons. When they can not find it, they say, this is a useless equipment and become disgusted.
Life is just like a video player but it has just one button – Record. Our each moment, each day gets recorded here and stays here for ever. If we look back at our lives and can see our own recordings, how are we going to react to it? The fact is that we can not change what ever has already been recorded. We can only change our act in the forthcoming episodes. Then what are we waiting for?
Lets get started…….Lights……..Camera……….Action…………..!!!!!!!!!

Thursday, May 15, 2008


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Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Arrogance & Self-Confidence

There is a very fine line between arrogance and self confidence. Self confidence is about holding your head high and taking pride in what you are doing. It is about believing in yourself and whatever you are doing. When we increase the scale of both these things then it enters the area of arrogance.
Arrogance also means believing in what you are doing and “not believing in what others are doing”. Arrogance is a negative emotion while self confidence is a positive one. Self confidence emerges from the belief that with a sincere effort any thing can be achieved. It comes from the belief that there is a supreme power that makes things happen. With a positive mind we can attract all the natural forces to make things work for us. This keeps us excited and enthusiastic about life.
Arrogance also has the belief that things can happen the way we want them to happen but it does not have the humility to bow down to any one else. This attitude takes away their power of listening. Many a times they are unable to listen to the warnings of future disaster also. This results in self destruction. Their own acts become the cause of their downfall.

Ravana was an extremely intelligent man. He had acquired various skills and knowledge but he had only one shortcoming – he was arrogant. He did not accept that there could be anyone better than him. He did not accept that he could do anything wrong. He did not accept that his decisions or acts could be wrong. He did not listen to wise advice. That is what caused him to lose his life and his empire. On the other hand, Ram despite of Ravana being his enemy and fighting a war with him, had respect for his knowledge. Ram fought against Ravan’s wrong deeds, not against him as a person. That is why he instructed Laxman to go and learn from Ravan before he breathed his last. It was the self confidence of Ram that made him win and it was the arrogance of Ravana that caused his downfall.
We all should have the confidence that we can achieve anything that we want to but we should not have the attitude that we are the supreme power and we need not learn from anyone or listen to anyone. By listening and learning from someone we do not lose anything, we enrich ourselves.
Dr.Nupur Jaiswal